Thursday, 20 August 2009

The Internet Bully & A Request

(edited to add a request - could we all post at some point about Internet Bullies, pehaps some sort of public ousting would make them realise they are dispicable little people - In all honesty I am so pissed off about them that I think there should be a world anti-internet bully awareness week arghhhhhh)

Ok I am fed up of reading on other people's blogs that they are receiving comments which include, hurtful or filthy or negative statements. Who are the sad people who get some sort of warped pleasure from offending and upsetting thoroughly nice and genuine people.

There is a difference between an opinion and writing hurtful potentially slanderous comments. Or making childish pornographic references in response to a genuine post that are frankly unnecessary and offensive.

To me it is the equivalent of the worst kind of bullying, a faceless bully is the worst kind. Do they get some kind of pleasure out of this morally questionable behaviour. I don't care about the Internet bully at all, I don't care that they may have sad little lives with nothing better to do than trawl the net picking on completely genuine human beings.

I care about the human beings they pick on. I haven't in honesty read the comments to which the blogging community are referring - they have had to go to the trouble of reading this purile rubbish, deal with the emotional fallout and possibly wonder if they should apply comment moderation.

If all the blogs I read end up through necessity applying comment moderation it would be a sad day indeed. It would take out the spontaneity and real time beauty of the blogging world to which I am fairly new.

But I know this - if you are reading this and troll forums intentionally 'flaming' or comment on blogs with the intent to hurt, abuse or upset, ask yourself why you are doing it, what is your motivation, does it make you a better person, look to your conscience closely and if your conscience is clear then you blatantly need professional help.


I feel in a way that giving the time of day posting about the Internet bully is a little wrong perhaps because that is something they obviously want - attention. But do you know what I mentioned in another post latterly I can't abide a liar, I also cannot abide a BULLY.

I hope that someone is able to report the Internet bully to their service provider and get their accounts suspended. No doubt they could still go to the local library or Internet cafe but it would make it harder for them.

I know its not a perfect world but when plain nastiness pops up in my front room and stares me in the face via my computer screen I just wonder what has happened to mankind. I still believe that in the end there are more good people in the world than bad and that helps (I am not perfect at all and I don't think I would like to be either) but I just wish shitty nasty bullies would go make a blogging community for themselves where they could have a jolly old time to themselves being complete arseholes. I am sure there is a club or Internet forum for all sorts of stuff that I don't want anything to do with, that I find offensive etc. so go there comment bullies and leave the 'good' people alone - please.


I don't get many comments on the whole and the one's I do get I appreciate so much. I don't expect anyone to agree ever with anything I say and truly wouldn't be offended by any comment which said so. In 'real life' its good to talk but friend's talk and if they disagree even over a glass of wine, beer whatever they can generally agree to disagree, learn from the debate, respect an opinion but rarely would a good friend intentionally upset, berate or just behave like a complete shit. So to the internet bully or troll - I say this: Leave the decent bloggers alone, you are not welcome in a community which generally tries to support, understand and offer the hand of friendship.



7 comments:

Kim (frogpondsrock) said...

... I just wish shitty nasty bullies would go make a blogging community for themselves where they could have a jolly old time to themselves being complete arseholes.

Oh dear that line just made me laugh out loud. Thankyou I had been having a horrid day and now I am smiling. How are you feeling after your trip to hospital? That must have been a terrifying experience for you.

Also I have just implemented a comment policy on my blog and I this is what I have decided to do to trollish comments.

Trollish comments will be edited until they amuse me. I will mock all trolls and publish their details. IP addresses will also be provided on request.

I think that is fair enough. ((hugs)) Kim

madsadgirl said...

I decided on comment moderation right from the start with my blog. I generally spend a fair amount of time on the computer most days and endeavour to moderate comments as soon as they arrive. Fortunately I have never received any nasty or bullyish comments, so I have allowed every comment except one to be published, and that one was not published because the author of it asked me not to. At the time it was the only way that she had to contact me as I didn't have an email address on my blog.

I know exactly where you are coming from with this post and I applaud you for writing it.

Achelois said...

Feeling loads better Kim, fortunately most of the horrid hospital stuff was dulled by meds!

Thanks madsadgirl.

Anonymous said...

Hello. I'm de-lurking to say well done on that post. Most people write blogs for fun, to disseminate information or just get things out of their systems - the last thing anyone needs are nasty comments.

I've been lucky and not had any but I always thought I'd delete any I got. I like Kim's policy though!

I'm glad to hear you're feeling better.

Tiff said...

This is a fantatistic post. Good to have great people on side.

Anonymous said...

there's something about the anonymity of the internet that turns folks into a-holes

Kathleen said...

came here via kim's post...i stood up to a bully who savaged my friend for her comment on one of the bullies cliche's blogs.

She obviously did not, unlike you, like or encourage freedom of expression and was vicious...even saying that she would give my gentle friend a hysterectomy so that she could not breed anymore.

When i stood up for her she dedicated a whole post to savaging me .....i had been on her blogroll...she also tried to turn everyone in her cliche against us...nobody stood up to her...it was extraordinarily vicious but I just found out that she deleted her blog so there was a win for decency after all!

I agree we should stand up by speaking out and writing posts but after researching this i found out that i probably inflamed things by standing up for my friend on the bully's post...it just incensed her. I was actually frightened that she would find out where i live ...we both live in sydney

thanks for your post and i so agree about the comment moderation